How to deal with post partum blues

First, I want to say that postpartum blues and Post-partum depression are two different disorders. If you suffer from PPD, please contact a professional for help. Now, let’s face it, I believe most woman has dealt with some form of PPB. Postpartum blues is a mood disorder than affects women after birth. Some women have stated that along with their blues, they’ve experience anxiety, deep sadness and exhaustion. Some believe that PPB doesn’t really last long, usually right after childbirth and dissipates, but I feel it can last little longer or come and goes. I suffered from PPB after Ollie, I really didn’t know what it was, I felt overwhelmed, had crazy anxiety and felt alone; after a couple of months we went into quarantine and I needed to figure out how to get out of that rut, considering that being in lock down would only make things worse for me. So, how do you deal with Post-partum blues? The first step into ridding PPB is to find your happy space/place, whatever or wherever that is, will it be easy? Unfortunately it won’t. Because this process is part finding yourself in the middle of these job descriptions you have as a mother and a wife/gf. Find what makes you happy and try to do it often. For me it was photography and music. I don’t get to take photos often as I use to, so I do miss it, but if I feel really down, I’ll throw the babies in the car and take a countryside ride, and hopefully sneak in a photo or two here and there in the hopes that I don’t look crazy (that’s my anxiety talking by the way). The first line to Bob Marley’s Trenchtown Rock is “one good thing about music, when it hits you feel no pain” and that is the truth! Music heals the soul. One day I was feeling really sad, there was tightness in my chest and this heaviness on my head and shoulders, I needed to let this feeling out. The kids were playing in the living room and I asked Suri to play Adele’s “Don’t you remember”, and I cried just singing along. And you know what? that made me feel so much better, I can’t say I was 100%, but I felt relieved to let out whatever it was bottled up in there. Another way to deal with Post-partum blues is fresh air and vitamin D. I can’t express how important this is because the blues can easily turn into depression if not taken seriously. Nature is our #1 healer! Going out for a wooded walk, a park walk, a backyard picnic or even grilling some food for the family outdoors can help with PPB. It’s something about nature that is therapeutic; it’s free, take advantage. Add a little self care to your routine. Having time to take care of yourself makes a world of a difference. I know they state what women are strong, But are we really that damn strong or are we trying to live up to this stupid ass stereotype. No we need a break too, we need time too, we need to breathe too. Getting a spa treatment can easily flip things around for you. So treat yourself, don’t cheat yourself.... out of happiness. Lastly, ask for help! I do not have the luxury of help, I don’t live near family nor do I trust strangers with my children, and that’s just me, that’s not to disparage anyone else, you do what works for you and your family. But getting help to be able to do what you need/want to do changes the game, and if it’s a relative, even better. I feel like us women are harder on ourselves because a lot of this is overwhelmingly unexpected (motherhood) and sometimes we need to step back for an hour; for that countryside ride or spa treatment to recuperate while the kids are with daddy or grandparents. Also, this is important as well, your diet, what are you eating? What you eat is who you are, if you eat heavy, you're going to feel heavy, if you eat light and healthy, you're going to reflect that. Try your best to have a healthy balanced diet. ,That’s all I can think to share for today, I hope this can help you as much as it helped me, and know that regardless of anything you’re a great mom and your baby loves you the way things are. And I hope you take the necessary steps to be mindfully right for your and your family.

I also want to add, this isn't sponsored on my blog but I want to talk about taking vitamins and how imperative it is to keep taking your vitamins after birth. It is also important on what kind of vitamins you are taking. I was contacted by Perelel, a prenatal vitamin company that specifically focus on imbalances moms might have during a certain period during and after pregnancy. I started taking the Mom Multi Pack which provides a cocktail of vitamins that I would need post partum. 

After having Ollie, I continued to take my old gummy prenatal vitamins which is all truth, was not doing anything for me. I was still stressed, still tired and still lacking the nutrients I need to survive everyday motherhood. I started taking Perelel and feel a world of a different in energy as well as I noticed a difference in my hair and nails and, I am more than likely to wake up in brighter spirits.

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Finding "Balance" in Parenthood

Caring for two children and being a house wife is work! In the beginning, I really thought I could do it because It was a bit of a breeze with Sage, because, it’s just one child. Even when Ollie was born, I was like “ok I got this, I can get the hang of it”. But do we really get the hang of motherhood/parenthood? Do we really know what we’re doing? No, we don’t. We are literally winging it everyday, and that’s the truth. I can write out every advice in the book, and I will from my perspective; but every child is different, they come with different temperaments, patience, rules and boundaries and the list goes on; it’s best to do what’s best for you and your child. However, I am still here to give you a few tips on how to balance it all and don’t get burnt out. 


1. Be patient - ‘there are no days the same’ 

  • We are so used to having everything done our way on our own time, and having children changes all of that. You can tell yourself, ‘I’ll be out the door to an appointment by 10am’, and the truth is you’re more than likely be late or won’t be able to make that appointment. Or you’ll have the whole day planned out on errands, and only one was accomplished through out that day. And the truth is that’s ok. I feel like this God’s way of telling us slow down and enjoy the in between. Because the in between doesn’t last. So I’ve learned to just accept things the way it is and appreciate the time that we have now. Also, if you’re like me, I love to have control of my life and my career, and the hardest thing for me was accept that my dream job/career might not come right now, and I can not blame my children for that because they didn’t ask to be here. So I have to be patient with my career and pursue it possibly at another time, or try and balance both but without holding animosity towards my children for simply wanting my attention.

2. Go with the flow - in the early years for children 0-3

  • We are such a militant society where we have to always be on time, dress a certain way, get up at a certain time, look a certain way that we enforce those same ideologies to our children. And at a young age they don’t really care bout these things. And I feel that I get more push back when I try to get my children in line on how society runs. Or, I’ll just get bombarded with the question of why, non stop, and that’ll just cause more confusion and frustration on both ends. So just go with the flow. 

3. Don’t be hard on yourself 

  •  This one is very hard. Because we live in a world where vanity wins. Everything must be perfect and you must be a perfect parent. No you do not! Parenthood is unpredictable and it’s hard. There are no rights or wrongs to this game on how you should parent YOUR child. Just because you see a mom with five kids that looks like she’s holding it down, doesn’t mean she is. And if she is, how do you know if she doesn’t have help? Or, just because you see this father take his children on a bike ride every week doesn’t make you less of a fun parent. Ask your child what would they like to do? Most of the time it’s some really simple like play, get some ice cream or even some form of craft. Do what works for you both, as long as you give your child time, they’ll love you unconditionally.
 4. Balance your time - self care 
  • This is another hard one. Well, it’s hard for me because I don’t live near family to help me with the kids, just so I can have some me time, or to simply catch up on the house work. But if you’re blessed with the help of extended family that is willing to watch your kids even for an hour, take it! You’ll be surprise what you can get done in one hr! You can take a candle lit bath, read a book, clean up, prep dinner; I mean, sky is the limit! Afterwards, by just having that time to just "think", you'll fell much better and it'll be easier for you to move forward into parenting again. You'd probably miss the kids at some point, well maybe not, but you get my drift.  
 I really hope this finds you and brings you comfort. Like I said, I am no way an expert in this considering that I am still learning myself. I just wish I had someone to tell me these things before becoming a parent. I would of been less anxious, I would of known what to expect and most of all I would of calmed down and take things one day at a time. Peace & Love.